She insists on being the center of attention, and is often the most charming person in the room. Narcissists are very outgoing and excel at marketing themselves.

She often seeks favorable treatment, and automatic compliance. She believes that she is special, and that she deserves fame... access page ...

She insists on being the center of attention, and is often the most charming person in the room. Narcissists are very outgoing and excel at marketing themselves.

She often seeks favorable treatment, and automatic compliance. She believes that she is special, and that she deserves fame, fortune, success and happiness.

She is highly materialistic.

She is prone to envy, though she presents as supremely confident. She seeks opportunities to undermine others, and enjoys sharing confidences about how the two of you are better than others.

She is convinced that others are envious and jealous of her, and often uses this excuse for her lack of real, intimate friendships. When her friends enjoy successes of their own, she finds ways to punish them by downplaying their achievements.

She lacks empathy, and even common courtesy at times. She puts others down, including you. She does not hesitate to exploit others.

She is very competitive.

She believes that she is intellectually superior to her peers.

She blames others for problems. Narcissists don’t believe that they make mistakes, and lack the ability to process shame.

She displays a haughty attitude when she lets her guard down or is confronted. She will act impatient, arrogant and condescending. She will often excuse her own shortcomings by claiming that others are pressuring her or expecting too much of her.

She is dishonest and often lies to get what she wants. She will never admit this.

She is “psycho:” She engages in risky behaviors, has an addictive personality, and is prone to aggressive behavior when rejected. (Note: This is most common with Histrionic Personality Disorder.)

She is unpredictable in her moods and actions. You have trouble figuring out what she wants and where you stand.

She is capable of short-term regret, and will apologize profusely if backed into a corner. However, she will quickly rationalize her behavior and return to narcissistic patterns.


A woman doesn’t need to have all 20 of these traits to make a lousy relationship partner. If you can check off even a few of these characteristics, you should head for the hills at 60 mph. The six traits related to physical appearance should be apparent immediately, or within a short time of meeting.

Narcissistic personality traits can be difficult to detect at first. Narcissists always make a strong showing right out of the gate, and it takes time for them to reveal their negative qualities. They will only do so when feeling threatened or that they are not receiving “their due” in some way.

Based on the women of all ages I have known in my life, I think 10% is an accurate estimate of the number of narcissists in the female population. That’s a lot of women who could make you miserable if you’re not careful.
Please don’t date one. I beg you not to fall in love with one. And never, ever marry one.

Source:
If the label / shoe / diagnosis fits, then what might that mean for you? The title and URL aside, the article is worthy of a read by men and women. Written by a woman (2010) citing research and trends of Americans (men and women), recently posted and I read it with interest and share because it is interesting and might be helpful 

Link: Full Article: 20 Identifiable Traits of a Female Narcissist June 28, 2010 By Susan Walsh
hookingupsmart.com/2010/06/28/r

For some of my adult clients, Mother's Day is painful. That's because they are surrounded by exhortations to tell their mothers how much they love her. But what if they don't feel that? What if they missed out on the kind of mother they deserved?

I'm assuming that if you're reading t... access page ...

For some of my adult clients, Mother's Day is painful. That's because they are surrounded by exhortations to tell their mothers how much they love her. But what if they don't feel that? What if they missed out on the kind of mother they deserved?

I'm assuming that if you're reading this, you've had similar feelings. Perhaps your mother was absent, or neglectful, or abusive, or narcissistic. Maybe she's in your life, maybe you've had to cut her out in order to thrive.

Here are some suggestions for handling those painful feelings.

1) Acknowledge them.


That's the first step. Be aware that if you’re feeling something, there’s a reason for it. Your feelings have legitimacy, even if (especially if) your mother failed to recognize that.


2) Allow yourself space to grieve.


It’s okay to feel sad. It’s okay to feel angry. Anniversaries and holidays tend to bring grief to the surface, and Mother’s Day may remind you of what you didn’t experience. You’ll see other people out for their brunches and picnics in the park and you’ll wish you’d had what they did. Again, all legitimate.


3) Make a plan for what to do with the day.


Anticipate that you may have a hard time. Think about what would be most comforting to you. Maybe it’s planning a romantic day with your spouse, something that has nothing at all to do with parents and everything to do with being an adult yourself. Maybe it’s celebrating with your own family in a way that’s extremely different from how it would have been done in your family of origin. Or maybe it’s laying low and pretending it’s not Mother’s Day at all.


4) If you are going to have interactions with your mother, plan that carefully, too.


You’re entitled to your boundaries. If your mother is hard to enforce boundaries with, then maybe bring your partner or a friend who can help you do it. Someone can text you at a prearranged time and you can say, “I have to go now.” Yes, it’s her “special day” but special has its limits. You need to have yours.


5) If Mother’s Day is intensely difficult for you and the feelings linger for days or weeks afterward, it might be a sign that you have a lot of unresolved material that needs processing.


This doesn’t always mean therapy. It could involve journal writing, art, meditation, exercise, self-help books, long walks… But realize that you need more than you’ve been giving yourself. You might have wanted to leave your mom behind, but sometimes our parents won’t stay where we put them.


There’s a great therapy quote (forgive me if I’ve used it before, I love this one!) where a client asks a therapist, “How come my parents can still push all my buttons?”, and the therapist responds, “They installed the buttons.”


This stuff runs deep. Be kind to yourself.

Source: with the help of Mr. David DeLugas
blogs.psychcentral.com/bonding-time/2014

Doing the right thing, even when the right thing is diffi...

Are you in business? Before entering into a Letter of Intent (LOI), be sure to consult with legal counsel and make sure your counsel is aware of Landan et. al. v. Wal-Mart Real Estate Business Trust, et. al. (No. 2:12cv 926, W.D. Pa. Aug 5, 2012, where the court ruled that Wal-Mart’s repres... access page ...

Are you in business? Before entering into a Letter of Intent (LOI), be sure to consult with legal counsel and make sure your counsel is aware of Landan et. al. v. Wal-Mart Real Estate Business Trust, et. al. (No. 2:12cv 926, W.D. Pa. Aug 5, 2012, where the court ruled that Wal-Mart’s representatives’ repeated assurances that
they intended to sign a lease, the extensive negotiations
after a Letter of Intent (LOI) that said it’s terms were not binding, and the plaintiff’s expenses in seeking the lease were enough to create a binding contract, even though no final lease had been signed. 

Practice tip: Make sure your LOI specifies what is needed to make a final and binding deal. If you need information on LOI drafting, contact me. If interested in retaining my legal services as this year ends and as we go into 2014, remember that a retainer paid before the end of the year is deductible for 2013!