Ive said before, fathers have to raise ourselves into one class of people. Cant be separate along income, neighborhood, language, country of origin, ect. But it can't be done in some social justice way, as intersectionality actaully brings strife as it exposes superficial differences. Simply, the... access page ...

Ive said before, fathers have to raise ourselves into one class of people. Cant be separate along income, neighborhood, language, country of origin, ect. But it can't be done in some social justice way, as intersectionality actaully brings strife as it exposes superficial differences. Simply, the law already punishes men for their wrongs, we have to be together and stop shaming each other over menial things. It basically comes down to each individual has to understand male competition, and make it work for us instead of against us as we grow.


Example: Frank gets behind on his child support. He is also being alienated from his child. Frank gets upset, doesnt think he should give a red roaring cent anymore and decides to keep his money. Now, anyone with a brain still working knows child support collection agencies will be taking that money soon enough regardless of what Frank wants to do.
So, best course of action, would be to make sure Frank knows what will probably happen, but otherwise there isnt a thing to say other then, "I know how it feels bro"
If we try to shame him into "doing the right thing" we are in effect doing the wrong thing. He is already being alienated, he doesnt Need extra pressure from a group that is supposed to be about support.


Example 2: Domestic violence charges. I have lost track of how many fathers have come to the pages, scared as hell, that their name was printed in the paper and nobody would help them. Figured it was all over for them, even though their ex lied and got them charged. I know quite a few who even pleaded guilty just to get away from their ex, or to get out of jail as they had no bail. Their isnt much in the way of help for these fathers as is. So, same as before, the law got it handled. So who fucking cares what happened. 70 percent domestic voilence intiated by women,yet jail and prison stats do not reflect this reality.


Example 3. Addiction. This can be a hard issue to face up to, either if you Need to come to terms with changes required, or if you have tried to support a loved one through addictions. I know for alot of people, detox and rehab helps(followed by AA or NA to look for others who are doing it and are serious) but there has to be alot of effort on clean friends and family to support a person through the first while. What i noticed for some of people that got started, what was a once a month or every other weekend thing, that was fun, quickly went south when faced with break ups, alienation, job losses, and for fathers they seem to lose more friends that were mutual. This loss of network leads to isolation and what started as something to mask the pain, quickly turns into something else.
Of course, there is also those who were drinking or doing drugs in a harmful way long before the break up, and unfortunatly the nature of addiction chips away at the love and support a person may have had, so when a person is finally ready to do what is required, loved ones have long since stepped away making recouvery attempts harder.

It makes what started as a short term answer to pain, the very thing that keeps, in some circumstances, the alienation to continue when in some instistences alot could of been resolved.

The thing is, when we push others into isolation, we are ensuring bad behavior from these individuals when being connected is what we Need as humans to learn and grow. If Frank dont pay, he will still Need support from a group. He will see others doing good and want that for himself. Same as the guy who has a domestic charge. He may be guilty, or he may be innocent. But if we push him away, we ensure someone will go to jail later on, or mabey someone will die becasue he felt like he had to do everything on his own.


Links & Sources: 
In the Absence of Fathers: A Story of Elephants and Men
http://thesestonewalls.com/gordon-macrae/in-the-absence-of-fathers-a-story-of-elephants-and-men/

What causes addiction? Easy, right? Drugs cause addiction. But maybe it is not that simple.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ao8L-0nSYzg&feature=youtu.be

Murder suspect found dead by officers Saturday night: RCMP
https://globalnews.ca/news/4306929/buck-lake

Power. Control. 2 words that jump out at you when you first look at the model for Duluth. And every action on there can be done by either gender. What's worse, the section"using male privilege" is very vague and I suspect just added as a cudgel to chip away at male self worth. The foundation of a... access page ...

Power. Control. 2 words that jump out at you when you first look at the model for Duluth. And every action on there can be done by either gender. What's worse, the section"using male privilege" is very vague and I suspect just added as a cudgel to chip away at male self worth. The foundation of a healthy relationship is 2 people who have good self esteem, not to tell one person his role at whatever he does is toxic. And this wheel, or justice and family laws that evolved off its ideology, have to be changed.


At this point, I'd like to highlight the fact domestic violence is 50/50 initiated, and in some cases reciprocal.


So imagine being a male, and trying to get help if you called 911. It's a tough sell to begin with, and men do not make for good victims. Both in the eyes of the law,(for a variety of reasons) but also the man himself will not want to press charges for 2 main reasons, one being fairly obvious. Any time taken off for court, from work, and other matters that are related to domestic abuse take time and as men as the victims there are zero resources to help. So a bunch of money out the window for nothing. Regardless if he wanted to stay in the relationship or not and regardless of children.


But there is a another reason, and it's not thought or talked about. And this is also the reason men do not like to call the police in the first place, stems from a feeling of shame and is rooted in our biological urge to protect. By calling the police we are "signalling" we can't protect and are not good protectors. So you don't call anyone and it gets worse.
By enabling this fantasy in(insert current year here)


We continue to tell men to man up, but I'm afraid that has become a toxic catch phrase that no longer serves a purpose.


I hope, going forward, all father's and mother's stand up to get better treatment for our familys and not be governed by laws from a ideology that does not help those they claim to help.

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Sources: facebook.com/FathersCanada -

Contact Fathers Rights Canada  brainsyntax.com/FathersRightsCanada

Duluth Model buries key facts on domestic violence
https://honest-ribbon.org/mega-featured/duluth-model-buries-key-facts-on-domestic-violence/