I was shown this Page and I have to say I'm blown away by the narrow minded mothers of this women's coalition. I got blocked from another site because I voiced my opinion regarding father rights and how BOTH parents are needed equally. They also stated how dare us dads try a sever the bond between a mother and child that it was abusive to the child and mother.just typing that makes me sick Yet Mother s All over the world(not all) but it seems that you hear of more of the malicious type then the good ones . But these so called mother wouldn't bat an eye at destroying the relationship between the father and child THAT IS PERFECTLY ACCEPTABLE.... I voiced my opinion and they CAN'T Even have a dialogue about it. it must be too hard on their entitled ears. When will this be about equality and not control financially or emotionally of the father.I came a cross this article on their Page I know its along read but entertaining
Child Custody Want To Be A Good Dad?
Support Mom And Avoid Father’s Rights Groups Want To Be A Good Dad?
Support Mom And Avoid Father’s Rights Groups
By Trish Wilson
Reprinted with permission of the author Over the past decade, fatherhood has been all the rage and dads are naturally the talk of pundits on Father’s Day. So let’s say you’re a divorcing dad and you’re having trouble coping. You look for help on the internet and discover the father’s rights movement.Be warned – avoid father’s rights groups like the plague. According to the pro-feminist men’s group The National Organization For Men Against Sexism (NOMAS), “male supremacist groups (“Father’s Rights”) have caused unspeakable harm to our country and to our children by encouraging abusive fathers, often with little past involvement with their children, to seek custody as a tactic to pressure a mother to return or to punish her for leaving. “Shared parenting”, “friendly parent”, involvement of both parents and other concepts that seem fair and benevolent have instead been used to manipulate courts and legislatures to help abusive fathers. For instance, women are routinely denied custody of their children after being classified as “unfriendly” for asserting that the husband has abused them or their children.” Father’s rights groups prey on confused men angry and sad over the break-up of their relationships by stoking their rage and insecurities.
In addition, father’s rights groups encourage men to fight for custody of their children by using harmful tactics that further erode their relationships with their ex’s – and by extension their children. How can a dad – unemployed or working outside the home – be a good father? Not by fighting for custody or demanding “shared parenting” after divorce or breakup.
The best way a dad can be a good father is by providing support to the mother of his children, including both financial and emotional support. According to Florida attorney Elizabeth Kates, “a father’s most important role, and the one common “father factor” in all research that indicates any correlation between father involvement or presence and positive effect on child well-being is: a father who emotionally cares for, financially supports, respects, is involved with, takes some of the work load off of, and generally makes life easier, happier and less stressful for. . . his children’s mother.” If dad wants to make sure his children thrive he must do whatever he can to ensure that their mother is thriving. Stop fighting for “shared parenting” or sole custody if you are in court. Don’t badmouth their mother. Stop hiring paid mouthpieces that tout the latest psychological theory to show that the children are best off with a dad who had never acted as their primary caregiver. I know this will piss off lots of men but it is the truth. Don’t believe me? How about the research? A seven-year study by Dallas’s Timberlawn Psychiatric Institute found the one factor that was the most important in helping children become healthy, happy adults, was the quality of the relationship between their parents. This one factor was more important than giving kids hugs, providing good discipline, building their self esteem, or any other aspect of what is traditionally considered ‘good parenting’.” Other studies found that “the strongest single factor associated with resiliency in early years is social attachment to a primary caregiver.
There is considerable evidence linking secure attachment to social and academic competence and positive developmental outcomes, such as improved communication, problem-solving, social relationships and grades” and “the single most important determinant of child well-being after divorce is living in a household with adequate income.” Even the National Fatherhood Initiative agreed with the mother-needs-support assessment when it found that “the best thing a dad can do for his children is love their mother.” Researcher Michael Lamb, known for his studies of fatherhood, noted that “…the warmer, the richer, the more supportive the relationship he has with the mother, the better he is able to be a supportive and loving father for the child.” So dads, the message is clear. If you want your children to grow up to be happy and healthy adults, the best thing you can do for them is to make sure that their mother is comfortable, healthy, and happy. When primary caregiving moms thrive, children thrive. And happy children enjoy their fathers more.
September 17-19th, fathers’ rights activists [FRA’s], will be descending on the U.S. Capitol under the guise of parents’, children’s and family rights groups spouting cries of “parental equality” and “family court reform”. But what the organizers of the march hide from the public is their fathers’ rights roots and agenda: forced equal parenting and other “reforms” which benefit men and greatly harm women and children.
The FRA’s figured out a while ago that they can be more successful if they camouflage themselves as gender-neutral family court reform activists and put out calls for “unity” of the sexes, while deriding activists as sexist who identify the crisis as discrimination against women. The hypocrisy is stunning, but many cannot see it. It’s time the truth was networked to the public and legislatures so we can stop damaging legislation from being enacted.
How you can NETWORK the Truth:
1) Share post, like, react, comment
2) Contact organizations supporting the rally
3) Contact your legislators
4) Hand out flyers to the public and/or legislators
CONTACT your Senators and Congresspersons:
https://whoismyrepresentative.com/
VOICEMAIL example:
I am with the Women’s Coalition and we are informing legislators that the Million Parent March is organized by fathers’ rights activists in disguise as parents’ rights activists. They are pushing mandatory shared parenting legislation which is very harmful for women and children. Please see through their propaganda and disinformation and oppose any legislation proposed by them. Thank you.
EMAIL [copy and paste or write your own]:
Dear Senator/Congressman/Congresswoman, I am with The Women’s Coalition and we are informing legislators that members of the “Million Parent March” are actually fathers’ rights activists [FRA’s] in disguise. These FRA’s are posing as gender-neutral parents’ and children’s activists pushing for parental equality and family court reform, but they are lobbying for legislation that benefits men and harms women and children. Please don’t be duped.
The marchers will be descending on the Capitol Sept. 17 – 19th disseminating propaganda and lobbying for “shared parenting”. This is more accurately termed “Forced Equal Parenting” as it forces parents in contested custody cases to share parenting time equally regardless of the quality of their parenting or their relationship with the children. This is not equality and it is not in the best interest of children, which is the prevailing doctrine. Although there is always an exception for child abuse, evidence of abuse by fathers is routinely disregarded, so custody is commonly being given to abusers, causing much devastation to women and children.
FEP, and its cousin “friendly parent”, legislation, in effect, changes the best interest of the children standard to the best interest of the parent who wants to take primary custody away from the children’s primary nurturer, almost always the father, which explains why it is being pushed by FRA’s. By getting equal—or nearly equal—time with children, fathers can avoid paying child support and it empowers them to use children as leverage to get women to stay or to give up child support, and to continue to control and abuse them. Domestic violence and child abuse are epidemic, so it is no surprise that 75-85% of contested custody cases involve women trying to escape spousal and/or child abuse. Good men who care about what is best for their children do not launch custody battles against the mother.
Other propaganda FRA’s disseminate regards child support and alimony “reform”, and the false notion that fathers are the ones losing custody because mothers report abuse falsely and alienate children from good fathers. They often distort statistics to falsely portray mothers as being favored in custody in contested cases and fathers as losers, when the opposite is true.
And don’t be fooled by the fact that there are a lot of women at the march. Recruiting women is a main tactic to deceive legislators into thinking equal parenting is good for women too. Most of the women participating are either related or affiliated with FRA’s, don’t know the march is about FEP, or have been bamboozled into thinking FEP and neo-FRA’s will help them get their children back.
The FRA’s are holding their march on Constitution Day because they claim FEP should be a Constitutional amendment. We assume they will be laughed out of the Capitol for that.
The Women’s Coalition, along with many women’s, children’s, domestic violence and child abuse organizations are all opposed to FEP and will soon be proposing a new Child Custody Court system, one which will recognize differences in parenting, provide protections for abused women and children, uphold the best interest of the child standard, and provide due process for all.
Please oppose Shared Parenting/FEP legislation and support Child Custody Courts.
Thank you
[Your Name]
Women’s Coalition Activist
WomensCoalitionInternational.org
Facebook.com/TheWomensCoalition
You can also contact Michigan legislators to oppose the equal parenting bill there.
https://www.facebook.com/TheWomensCoalition/photos/a.1464723457135309.1073741828.1459888504285471/1980395818901401
“Shared parenting should be taken off the table until effective practices can be implemented to make sure all children are protected.”
- Barry Goldstein, JD
“‘Shared parenting’, ‘friendly parent’, involvement of both parents and other concepts that seem fair and benevolent have instead been used to manipulate courts and legislatures to help abusive fathers…When primary caregiving moms thrive, children thrive.
- Trish Wilson, investigative journalist
http://nomas.org/want-to-be-a-good-dad-support-mom-and-avo…/
“[An] empirical study found that court preferences for joint custody and the “friendly parent” principle outweighed judicial consideration of abuse claims.”
- Joan Meier, JD
http://scholarship.law.umn.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi…
“The Truth about Equal Parenting” with links to research:
http://boycottdivorcecorp.weebly.com/equal-parenting.html
FB page: https://www.facebook.com/PrimaryNurturers/
Million Parent March schedule of activities:
Sunday, September 17th, 2017 – Constitution Day Rally (9:00 am / Upper Senate Park)
Monday, September 18th, 2017 – MILLION PARENT MARCH (9:00 am / Lincoln Memorial)
Tuesday, September 19th and Wednesday, September 20th, 2017 – Peaceful Assembly, Legislative Meetings, and Presentations and Educational Seminars (Upper and Lower Senate Park and Union Station / See the Full Schedule for Times and Locations of All Events)
For more info on the March:
Website: http://www.millionparentmarch2017.org
FB page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1281865891876500/
COALITION NOTE: This information can be used against FRA’s in any country who are lobbying for equal parenting legislation.